Diamonds are a Girl’s Best Friend

I wrote this in 2008 and have adjusted the details a little to update it.

16 years ago today, my Genius Better Half proposed to me and oh, he got me good! I never saw it coming!

We had been dating for about a year and half at this time. He sent me a dozen red roses at work that Friday with a note saying something to the effect of “you don’t have to wait any more.” I thought he was talking about my birthday present or something (my birthday is in 4 days). Totally clueless.

I drove my Mitsubishi Eclipse to his house after work, thinking we were going to dinner and a movie. I went in and talked with his mom for a bit, while he was doing something? I had no idea. When we left, he walked with me and opened my door. Nothing unusual because he has always been a gentleman and I let him (Side note: He still opens doors for me!). It was a little unusual for us to be taking my car instead of his pickup but I didn’t think anything about it. Totally clueless.

He asked me a few questions and got me distracted talking about myself — which is a nifty little trick he does so he doesn’t have to talk. He said he needed to stop by a softball field to talk with a friend of his for a few minutes. This was quite believable as our lives really revolved around softball at the time.

We pulled up to an empty field, but there was one on the top of the hill where some people were playing. I asked him if we were going up there and kinda wondered why he’d parked so far away. “Nope, we’re going out there.” Totally clueless.

He proceeded to pull out of the trunk: his guitar, a blanket, and a box. OH MY WORD! This was it! How in the world did I not see that he had to put down part of the back seat to fit his guitar in the trunk? He kept me looking forward the entire time he was helping me in the car!

I now interrupt this touching moment with some background. When he and I first started dating, he told me it was really easy for guys to say “I love you” in bed, but to say “I love you” on a softball field, now that really meant something. The first time he wanted to tell me he loved me, he drove to a softball field and took me out in center field to tell me. It was really sweet. Back to this touching moment.

He helped me walk out to center field. I was in high heels because we were, after all, supposed to be going to eat dinner — not a softball field. He laid down the blanket for me to stand on, got out his guitar and sang me a beautiful song to which I cannot remember the name of right now. I’ll find out and let you know. I know — mood buster. But just go with the flow.

After he finished singing, I applauded and cheered. He put his guitar down. He took my hands and began the speech he’d been planning for I don’t know how long. Oh, and of course he was down on one knee. I was so excited between smiling and crying, I didn’t let the poor boy finish his speech before I blurted out “yes I’ll marry you!” We hugged and kissed.

Next he hands me a box. Not just any box. A Victoria’s Secret pink and white striped box — bigger than a jewelry box. I opened it up and there was a tshirt inside that said “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend” with a picture of a softball diamond (you know, the field?). It was absolutely perfect!

Now, lest you think he’s a schmuk for not buying me a ring, he said he agonized over it and really wanted me to be with him to pick out the perfect ring. See, I am not a girlie-girl. Never have been. I don’t wear jewelry — don’t really like rings, etc. and have no clue about diamonds. So he purchased the shirt for me, and then proceeded to take me shopping — after dinner, a girl’s gotta eat! We shopped and shopped and learned everything there is to know about diamonds, and in the end, he bought me a really nice, really big diamond. I tried talking him into something smaller, but he refused and bought a really nice ring.

It was an absolutely unique and beautiful proposal. I knew after he and I had been dating for 2 months that I wanted to marry him — it took him a little longer to get to that point, but that was due to a past bad relationship. So, I cut him some slack :)

Oh yeah, when we sat down to eat, I called Mom and Dad to tell them the news. You know what? They already knew. He had driven out to my parents’ house without me knowing, and asked Dad for my hand in marriage. I have definitely got a Keeper. So back off you single women — he’s mine!

In October, we will celebrate 16 years of marriage, and nowadays, that’s really an accomplishment. So many couples around us are getting divorced. I thank God that He’s kept us together this long and I pray that God strengthens our marriage every day.

Hugs and kisses to you, My Genius Better Half! You gave me a wonderful memory when you proposed :) and even more wonderful memories have followed!

I feel grown-up

This year has been a busy one already. For those of you who don’t know, our soft-side water bed sprung a slow leak in January — prompting us to not only get a new bed, but to also do some work in our bedroom. The blue carpet that’s been in there since we moved in (almost 15 years ago) was ripped up and some really neat laminate flooring was put down.

If you know anything about me, you know I don’t have a domestic bone in my body (poor Duck – I know). I don’t know how to decorate, what colors to paint, how to cook, or much else that I probably should know how to do. One of my Proverbs 31 sisters, Samantha, volunteered her sister’s help. So, I sent a few pitiful emails off to Rebecca of Grace Interiors & Design and she sent me some paint swatches in the mail.

I explained that I knew we were supposed to have a decorating style, but for the life of me, I didn’t have a clue what that would be. I sent her a few pictures of the layout of the room and the bedroom furniture. I think somewhere in the emails she told me kinda what style we fit into but I don’t remember what that was.

I took her swatches and put them on the wall. Then I went to get a sample of the one color I kept leaning towards. I painted a few big boxes on different walls. When I asked Duck what he thought, I knew he didn’t like it but he just said “whatever you pick will be fine.” Later he admits to thinking it was a horrible Army green until we got it up on the walls. It must have grown on him 🙂

A photographer I am not. And this really doesn’t show off the color. It’s Sherwin-Williams’ Oyster Bay. I had told Rebecca that I was looking at something kinda blue-green that was relaxing and restful. Duck had thought about going purple – which we may end up painting the bathroom when we make it to that room. The neat thing about this color though is it really changes through out the day and night. Depending on the light, sometimes it looks really light green, sometimes even blueish-green and other times of the day, it looks darker.

Duck just laughed when I told him “now I feel all grown-up.” Who knew paint could do that for a 37-year old?

To God’s Perfect Gift to Me – Happy 14!

I sat here wondering what to write. I went back and read what I wrote on our 12th anniversary and our 13th anniversary. I was really sappy on the 13th anniversary, but I still feel that way about you Duck. I love you with all my heart and soul. I’m amazed at the blessings God gives us just in our relationship and growing us closer and closer. I miss you when you go to work and I dream of the day when we can sit all day in rockers on our front porch overlooking the mountains.

I know you feel like you need to buy me something, but honestly the vacation we just took was all I needed for our anniversary. It was awesome to get away and relax — even getting to relax Sunday watching football all day 🙂 even if you did beat me in Fantasy Football!

I love you very much and I hope you have a wonderful day 🙂 I look forward to listening to you sing tonight at the church revival service.


To everyone else – I highly recommend unplugging, especially if you are an addict like me. The mountains did me a world of good. I feel like I’ve been restarted! I didn’t take many pictures – at least not as many as I had planned. I’ve got scooped back up in work though and haven’t downloaded them off the camera yet.

Thanks to everyone who threw up a prayer for us, asked about our vacation and covered for us while we were gone. I hope to post more about our trip later this week, but who knows. The unplugging thing might just happen at night when it should be family time.

Anyway, we’re baaaccckkkk! And I’m plugged in again – for a little bit anyway 😉